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Is there crying... in writing?


We all know, there's no crying in baseball. But, is there crying... in writing?

Lots of great thinkers have said plenty about the importance of failure in your development, no matter what field you're in. Here's a great Forbes article with plenty of inspiration from people far more successful than me.

Each of these quotes is worth a read, but my favourite from this selection is the following:

"When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel." - Eloise Rested

So the jury's back, failure = good. At least on some level.

Still, those quotes are about failure, they aren't about crying. Is crying important to my development?

I would argue, maybe.

Confession: I cried on Sunday. I asked eight close buds to take a couple hours out of their lives and do a stage reading of Project Cat's Away: The Musical. My amazing friends came over, they read their parts seamlessly, we all had sandwiches... and then I cried on the car ride home.

Why? You may ask? My husband asked the same thing.

Truth is, I don't really have an answer. I was feeling all kinds of feels.

Arm chair psychology of the water works' deep-seated motivations are as follows:

-I felt raw from putting my work on display in front of people I care about

-I felt disappointed their reactions to my writing weren't as robust as I hoped they would be

-I became very aware that I now have to figure out what the heck my next step with this musical will be. Do I focus time here? On my next novel? On self-publishing and marketing?

And the big one:

-I worried I'll never amount to anything. I'm wasting my time. I'm a loser and I suck at writing. (That's what it always boils down to, isn't it?)

To some extent, that's all true... and maybe it's all false. Who knows? But, fact or fiction, I'm okay with the tears because ultimately, it comes down to this: I care about what I'm doing. I care enough to feel. All the feels. And that's exciting. That's the dream! Isn't it? To spend one's time working on things they're passionate about?

So, yay for me! Open the flood gates.

If you're not a crier, no biggie.

It's not like I think you should be forcing some alligator tears down your cheeks. But, if you do feel like crying, congratulations, you care about something. Maybe, for a little while, give in to that impulse. Then, be happy. You're working on a project that's making you feel weepy. You're living the dream!

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